Why am I so unmotivated?

Why do I feel unmotivated?

Although you might not know it yet, the following 5 thoughts are extremely toxic and unproductive. They will suck your time and energy, make you feel unmotivated, ignite procrastination, and will make you less happy. So if you notice yourself thinking any of these things more than a couple of times, this is an indication that you need to stop and think about what you really want in life.

1. “I should” or “I must”

These thoughts aren’t just limited to negative words like “should” or “must”. These words can pop up in our heads when we’re either thinking positively – but still looking at the world with a limiting belief – or when we’re thinking negatively by constantly telling ourselves that something should happen in the future. For example: “I should be more confident”, “I must do better” etc.

All of these different types of thoughts will come from your mind because they’re what society has set out to believe as right, fair, and logical. How else would you know what is right if no one told you? And therefore, it’s subjective. The problem with this way of thinking is that it’s holding you back from living the life that you really want, by constantly making excuses for yourself on why things can’t be any different than they are now. And it will make you anxious and demotivates you to even start the task, let alone complete it.


2. “I am not (good, smart, successful,…) enough”

This is another massive belief that will keep you stuck. If you ever find yourself thinking or saying “I am not good enough”, “I’m too old”, “I don’t have enough money” or any type of limiting belief like these, then take some time out to think about what you really want for yourself. Probably your (inherited intergenerational) perception of ‘not being enough’ is unconsciously blocking you and discourages you. Why this negative thought process has gained any power over you is because it’s what -you think- society has set out to believe to be right, fair, and logical. So high time to change your beliefs.

3. “XYZ should happen”

This toxic way of thinking comes from our upbringing, societal roles, and (again inherited) belief systems of how we think things should be. For example: “A good mom puts her children always first” or “I have to work hard for success.” Have you ever had any of these thoughts? Remember though; like I mentioned earlier this concept of “how things should be” is biased and based on our subjective beliefs.

4. “I have to do it perfectly”

Perfectionism can let your mind go in circles for hours or days on end with all sorts of different scenarios about what could happen if things don’t go just perfectly the way you want them to. The problem with this thought process is that it only causes you to feel stressed out, overwhelmed, and tired. If you ever find yourself thinking or saying “I have to do it perfectly”, then take a moment and ask yourself the question “What will happen if I make a mistake, if I fail?” Chances are there’s a nasty belief there that keeps you stuck, demotivates you, and lets you procrastinate.

5. “I’ll be happy when…”

If you find yourself saying or thinking: “I’ll be happy when I get this”, “I’ll be happy when I have more money”, “I’ll be happy when life gets better” etc., you are only feeding the toxic thinking of what you currently lack. Happiness is not something external that just exists or will be created by other people or things, but rather something internal that’s a part of you. And this is good news. As it will give you control, and put’s you in the driver’s seat. If you want to become happier, what emotional or mental inner glass ceilings are holding you back? You can do something about that!


What thoughts are you having on repeat that is demotivating you? That keeps you stuck, and is making you feel overwhelmed, stressed and tired?

Do you want to get rid of them?

Then just schedule your free Game Plan call with me. We will map the gap between where you are right now and where you want to be, and create a Game Plan with assured results. Schedule your complimentary meeting by clicking this link:

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